Insecurity is one of the most annoying things to live with. It rarely arrives as a loud crisis. It slipsin quietly, like a draft under a door, and settles in the...

“Gbenousoun.” (A terminology often used in a Nigerian and Yoruba household)Shut up.For many of us, that was the soundtrack of our childhood in an African home. It was the wordthat stopped...

Everyone talks about healing. It’s trending. It’s aesthetic. It’s on mugs and TikTok sounds andthread posts with 10k likes. But nobody talks about the cost of refusing to do it. Nobody...

As young girls, one of the questions we are often asked is, “Are you a boy or a girl?” Theanswer comes easily: “I am a girl.” But the next question, “How...

Friendships always came easily to me and when I think about my parents, I realise why.  My mum was extremely outgoing, the life of the party. She went out quite often...

Setting boundaries is like drawing a line, and it’s necessary. You’re not being mean or selfish, you’re being clear about what you can handle. When you don’t set boundaries, people might...